7 Times Playing It Too Cool Keeps You From Being In A Real Relationship

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One of my favorite things about my current relationship is that I dont have to pretend to be someone Im not. I dont have to play it cool, and if Im thinking something, I can justit.

I know that mayseem like standard relationship stuff to any logical human being, but for me, this is all HUGE.

You see, this is my first real relationship. Of course, I had plenty of those almost-relationships (I think the kids are calling them situationships these days) that lasted for weeks or months, without us really talking about whatit was and what we were doing.

But none of those thing really amounted to anything more, which partiallyhad to do with the fact that I didnt really want anything with most of those guys.

But another (much bigger) part of it had to do with my incessant need to be the chill girl.

Basically, I was so obsessed with coming off like nothing fazedme oravoiding being vulnerable at all costs, I ended up pushing plenty of decent dudes away.

Its funny because, historically, being the chill girl is supposed to be the most surefire way to get you the guy but, in reality, it usually ends up being what makes you lose him.

When you told him you didnt want to talk about it

Honestly, there were lots of times I reallywant to talk about what was bothering me.

Talking about what was on my mindbrought about real, human FEELINGS. Not to mention,I would have to say actual words out of my mouth in real-time, rather than simply sending perfectly curated text messages, drafted with the help of a million of my friends.

What if I ended up saying something psycho?! What if I told him I liked him, and he didnt feel the same way? What if I CRIED?

But from personal experience, I can tell you, the only thing worse than talking about your feelings istalking about them.

Id endurethese ambiguous, undefined situationships forweeks sometimes months with no real conclusion as to what we were doing, all because I was too scared to sit there and have a real conversation.

Sure, I probably came off as super chill on the surface, but what it did to me mentally was anythingchill.

Eventually Id lose the guy because (shocker!) hedidnt want to sit around with someone in a situationthats going nowhere, without ever discussing what we were actually doing.

When you told him you didnt care about something you really cared about so much

One time, Ihave to have the talk with a guy and it didnt go as planned. He asked, Really? This isnt working for you? I love things the way they are.

Instead of being honest and saying, nope, this isnt working for me at all. I actually hate this with a burning passion, I decided to play it cool and go with a new, more ~chill~ response: No, I just wanted to see where you were at. I dont really care.

So, becauseI technically didnt care, we went ahead and continued to do the whole half-ass, almost relationship thing that gave me no grounds to get upset when hed suddenly fall off the face of the Earth for a few days or hook up with another girl for a few more months.

Eventually, whatever was going on between us ended because I obviouslycare. I cared about what he was doing a lot. And it just got to betoo hurtful.

But instead of ending things before it got to that point, I waited and waited, continuing to pretend like I didnt care until I reached my eventual breaking point.

In retrospect, I think all I did by saying I dont care in that conversation was lose his respect. I suddenly became someone he going to lose, no matter how he treated me.

When you tried to make him jealous

This was a go-to move of mine in college.

In order to get the attention of the guy whomIlike, Id make it abundantly clear that I was being pursued by plenty of guys whom Ilike.

But I wouldnt do this in a blatantly obvious way. No, to keep up my chill girl attitude, Id do it by nonchalantly mentioning that so-and-so invited me to their frat formal or that Im going to my exs house for a party.

Essentially, I said things that made itI had other options thatall my eggs werent in this one basket.

Let me tell you how this one panned out for me: In what was essentially the worst case scenario, they all me. They believed I had all these other options whom I enjoyed being with, so they never took me seriously maybe rightfully so.

When you lied or exaggerated to make yourself seem cooler

This is just an embarrassing and cringeworthy one that weve all done at some point.

Pretending to watch a show you hate. Pretending to care about a sport you couldnt care less about. Pretending you LOVE music you hate. Pretending to understand jokes you wouldnt get without the help of Google.

To a certain extent, doing this is natural. You want the person you like to like you back, so youre going to do whatever it takes to appear cool to them. But it becomes a problem when you stop being true to yourself.

Best case scenario: This plan works. This guy buys that you really love the same horrible TV show as he does and loves youyou have such similar taste as him. But now, he loves you because of someone youre not.

The worst case scenario is obvious and more likely: He sees through your lies, and you look insecure and slightly pathetic (sorry, but its true), when youhave just been honest from the get-go and gained his respect for being true to yourself.

When you rejected him one too many times

I was big on rejection back in my day.

You see, I was never one of those people who had a really hard time saying no. No came naturally to me,when it came to boys I liked.

I would get afraid if someone were pursuing me, and as a weird, counterintuitive result, I would be mean to them, reject them or literally run (that was one time) from my feelings for them.

Im not gonna lie: In the beginning, its a great way to get a boys attention. A little bit of playing hard to get and a little bit of a chase is funand exciting. But eventually, it gets old and exhausting. And the person youre rejecting understandably gives up.

When you needed five shots to be vulnerable with him

This was another one of my go-to college moves.

If, for some godforsaken reason, I HAD to be honest with a boy about what was going on or about how I felt, my plan was to get drunk and have a talk with him while I saw him out at night.

Needless to say, this was a terrible plan. First and foremost, I could barely remember these super important, heartfelt conversations I was supposed to be having.

Second,I was saying was coming off at all like I had planned because I was hammered.

Finally, I was proving to my partner (and as a result, to myself) that I wasnt capable of having these important conversations sober.

When you refused to tell him how you really felt

All of these pretty much boil down to one thing: I was afraid.

I was so afraid of telling anyone how I really felt or what I really wanted out of our relationship (whatever it was) that I would just avoid the whole telling him how I feel part of the relationship entirely.

Yes, technically, I did successfully manage to avoid putting myself out there to be rejected.

But I wouldnt count that as a win by any means.

Youre obviously not going to stop all these habits at once, and hey, maybe some of them are working for you. But from my personal experience, these things are surefire relationship repellant.

This isnt to say I suddenly became this perfect human by the time I met my boyfriend and quit all my weird, chill girl stuff for good he definitely did his part in helping break some of my walls down. But the fact of the matter is, relationships are all about being yourself and being vulnerable. And a healthy relationship will never happen for you if you cant accept that.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/dating/chill-girl-lost-guy/1954160/

Why Isn’t Taylor Swift At The 2017 Billboard Awards?

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Its been the most-heated debate of the week: Is Taylor Swift going to the Billboard Awards? To the disappointmentof literally every Swift fan on the planet, Swift opted to skip the show this year, keeping in line with her recent low-profile take on her celebrity.So why isnt Taylor Swift at the Billboard Awards? In the past, the Billboard Awards (BBMAs) have been notoriously good to the pop star. In 2013, Swift opened the show with a dance party through the halls of the MGM Grand Garden that segued into a fan-favorite performance of her then-hit 22. That same night, she went on to win Top Artist of the Year for her albumaccording to Billboard.com.

According to the latest news from magazine, Swift has been making a conscious effort to take some time for herself and her life away from the public eye. A source close to the star told the magazine that Swift was feeling overexposed and like things were almost spiraling out of control. Shes being low-key and secretive because it makes her happy.

Months earlier in 2016 in an interview with, Swift made clear her desire to live on her own terms for a little bit without the pressure on myself to create something. She told the mag that she wanted to spend time focusing on short-term goals. I would really like to take a little time to learn things, she said, adding that she wants to be a well-rounded person who can make a good drink, and also someone with the ability to save someone if theyre drowning. She said that CPR, all the various kinds of chest compressions, were the types of skills she wanted to really explore in this phase of her life.

In the week leading up to the BBMAs, news broke that Swift had reportedly settled into a new relationship with British actor Joe Awlyn. According towhichfirst broke the news about Swifts new romance, the relatively new couple has been keeping their relationship under wraps by donning disguises while out and about. Elite Daily reached out to reps for both stars and has yet to hear back, and neither have publicly commented on the relationship as of yet.

According to, Swift has been renting a house in North London and has gone to great lengths to ensure the privacy her new partner deserves. A source told the site that Swift has flown in via private jets and her security has made it a military-like mission to prevent her from being seen.

After the tumultuous media frenzy her previous relationship with ex Tom Hiddleston, I cant exactly blame Swift for wanting a break from the limelight, no matter if shes taken a break to cool off or to keep a new relationship under wraps. Shes one of the most sought-after celebrities in the business, and though her fame relies on her availability and visibility to the devoted fans and followers who helped catapult her to the forefront of fame, I think Swifts earned a well-deserved break.

Theres always next year. ?!

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/entertainment/celebrity/taylor-swift-isnt-billboard-awards-first-time-forever/1955996/

What It’s Like To Date When You Have Depression

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Dating is already very much an emotional minefield on a day.

But trying to navigate through the maze of emotions that is dating gets even harder and can seem impossible when youre already grappling with a mental illness primarily affecting your emotions: depression.

While we might all attribute things like feeling sad and crying a lotto depression, the mental illness can actually take a much more serious toll on those who live with it.

Because depression can severely affect a persons ability to get up in the morning and live their lives, it can make dating something that literally requires you to function pretty well a little bit of a challenge to deal with.

In honor of National Mental Health Awareness Month, Elite Daily spoke to a couple of experts about how dating can change when you have depression.

People with depression may find it hard to function day-to-day, much less deal with dating.

Obviously, dating is very much a social activity. Especially in the early stages of getting to know someone, you have to be on whenever youre around them.

But finding the motivation to do so can be incredibly hard for someone dealing with depression, given that their day-to-day functioning is sometimes quite low.

If somebody has unremitting chronic depression, typically, thats going to impact their ability to function, based upon whether or not theyre getting treatment thats effective, Dr. Gary Brown, a licensed marriage and family therapist, tells Elite Daily.

Dr. Brown also explains that the typical symptoms of depression the person feels numb, [theyre] withdrawn, their sex drive (their libido) is significantly reduced, theyre not feeling great self-esteem, lack of sleep, fatigue can greatly impact a persons ability to find the strength to date at all.

Typically, when somebodys deeply depressed, they tend not to date that much, unless theyre looking for kind of like a fix, because theyre usually socially withdrawn, says Dr. Brown.

Clarissa Silva, behavioral scientist and author of relationship blog, YOURE JUST A DUMBASS, also explains to Elite Daily that even when a depressed person is able to function, the mental preparation required for dating may be too much sometimes:

You must keep in mind that sometimes they will alter plans unexpectedly simply because they just dont feel like they can do it that day. They have intentions of meeting with you, but want to present their best selves, as we all do.

The negative stigma attached to depression can dissuade depressed people from dating or from talking about their mental health.

The stigma surrounding depression not only makes people apprehensive about bringing it up with their partner, but it can also make them reluctant to continue dating at all.

[A depressed person may] feel like, Im depressed. Im really not worth dating right now. Im probably not going to give you good company,’ Dr. Brown says.

In turn, a person who feels this way as a result of the stigma may become even more socially withdrawn and may continue to reject dating and even treatment entirely, despite the fact that the vast majority of people who get treatment for depression actually benefit from it.

In order to fight against the stigma, Dr. Brown recommends being open about your depression with someone youre dating once you guys are past the casual stages to take some of the stigma away:

I really like to encourage people to say, You know what? I suffer from a condition thats pretty common in the population. I have this sadness sometimes about me. You dont even have to use the word depression.

Depressed people react differently to relationship troubles.

Though some couples can quickly and easily move on from any sort of trials and tribulations in a relationship, people with depression might not be able to brush it off so easily.

Silva explains that arguments with a partner may make depression symptoms worse, as those individuals have difficulty moderating between the argument and the negative view of themselves and their circumstances.

Moreover, according to Silva, depression can make it quite difficult to look past the negativity, and it can even make you seek thoughts that affirm the negative and distort the positive.

Given a depressed persons potentially distorted view of reality, she also explains that partners of depressed people should think before they speak:

Be cautious of what you say. A depressed person will read into what you say, take it deeply personally, and analyze it for hours until it confirms every bad thing they think about themselves.

Those with depression may prioritize the person theyre datingover their own self-care.

According to Dr. Brown, when were depressed, we tend not to take our self-care that [seriously]. Those who do date with depression may often put aside seeking treatment for the root of their problems (depression) in favor of trying to make dating favorable for the other person.

The number one priority when youre dating if youre depressed is not your date, its treating your depression. That has to be the highest priority, he says.

Though, unfortunately, those with depression may not realize prioritizing your date wont solve your problems. He further explains,

[Clients will]say, Listen, I dont have a sex drive. And I say, You having a sex drive right now is not really important. It might be to your partner, but the important thing we have to do right now is to help you lift your mood.

Dr. Brown also says that, while depressed people may feel the need to force themselves into dating, they shouldnt push themselves if theyre not ready.

Though dating is definitely not impossible to do, Dr. Brown advises those living with depression to focus on the real issue: If you want to have a really good outcome in terms of dating, get really good treatment for your depression.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/dating/dating-with-depression-changes/1955014/

If Your Relationship Is Healthy, It Should Have These 8 Qualities

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One of the toughest parts about dating is finding someone who has compatible goals when it comes to a relationship.

Finding someone who wants the same things as you do can be a daunting task. The beginning of every relationship is really just a trial period when you think about it. Youre testing out the waters and really seeing if the things you want are compatible with the things they want.

While its no secret that many people want different things, I think relationships are often made into these big, complex things that really dont have to be as complicated as people make them.

When you really break it down, there are only eight things you should want (or need) in a relationship.

1. Trust

Trust is a no-brainer in any relationship, so this really shouldnt be anything too out of the ordinary to ask for. I want to be able to trust my significant other not only to be faithful, but also to make good decisions on his own to be his own person without having to worry about how those decisions may affect me and our relationship.

2. Companionship

The best relationships are the ones that develop from friendships. Aseries of failed Tinder datestaught methat what I needed was a guy with whom Ive had that stable and solid friendship already built. I need my significant other to be my best friend. I need to be able to be 100% myself to goof around, to be serious about the hard things, and not to have to worry about being someone Im not.

3. Honesty

As long as youre honest, I wont be mad. And that applies to any situation we come across during our relationship. If something isnt working for you, let me know. Just tell me the truth and do it tastefully. I cant promise I wont be disappointed, but Ill always respect you for it.

4. Adventure

I want a significant other who is always up for an adventure. Someone who is down with being spontaneous and always up for trying new things. Whether its a weekend getaway to a secluded campsite or a weeklong European backpacking trip, I want someone who can travel with me and wants to see the world with me by theirside.

5. Humor

A sense of humor is perhaps the most important quality to me. I love to laugh, and I love to make people laugh. Its honestly one of the best feelings in the world, and I need someone who can get on my level with it. There really isnt anything that we cant handle as long as we can find a way to laugh about it together.

6. Independence

We can be our own people. Just because maintaining a relationship means sometimes putting someone else first, it doesnt mean we cant still have a portion of our lives that is still separate. Lets spend a Friday night doing our own things with our own friends. A little independence is certainly not a bad thing, and its healthy for a relationship.

7. Commitment

Obviously, commitment is a big part of a relationship. Im not referring to commitment in the sense that youre only dating me. Of course, I want that. But what I mean is that I want someone who really commits to me. Meaning that when things get rough, theyll stick around and want to work things out instead of just running away. I need someone who is going to make the choice that I am worth the hassle of whatever it is that we need to work through.

8. Patience

Patience goes hand in hand with my idea of commitment. I know that I am not an easy person to love. I am someone who needs time anda chance to slowly grow on you.

Im not someone a guy meets for the first time and says, Im going to marry her. Its just not who I am and its not how guys see me. I need to know that my significant other is going to be patient with me in all aspects of our relationship, especially the parts that are a struggle for me to deal with because of my depression and anxiety.

Personally, I dont think I am asking for much. And, to be honest, when I find the perfect, right guy, hes going to bring all of these to the relationship, and its not going to be too much work or effort.

Hell do it because its what he wants as well, and neither one of us will wear the pants because its something well do together. And thats where well exist as two separate human beings co-existing as one.

Originally written by Kait Mackinnon on Unwritten.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/dating/healthy-relationship-qualities/1863302/

The 5 Awkward Thoughts Every Introvert Has Before Going On A Blind Date

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As introverts, were comfortable being alone. However, meeting people becomes an obstacle when all you do is sit on the couch with your adopted dog and binge-watch Girls.

As a result, were often single and have trouble dating. The struggle becomes even more realwhen we get set up on a blind date and have to leave our house for a virtual stranger, of all things.

If youre reading this alone in your sweats, then you can probably relate to the thoughts we all have before going on a blind date.

1. I hope he doesnt want to go to a club.

We all know a first date is riddled with anxiety. However, a blind date for an introvertcan be a very overwhelming experience. In fact, if given the opportunity, we may just flake because of our anxiety.

Instead of succumbing to the crippling fear, take a risk on that blind date. You never know what you may discover.

2. I should just cancel.

Making plans is an exhausting process for any introvert. Committing to leaving our comfort zones is quite a feat in and of itself, so therefore, our first instinct is to retreat.

Instead of coming up with some lame excuse as to why you shouldnt go, challenge yourself to be uncomfortable.

Go out there and show the world what youve got because you really are amazing and your cat shouldnt be the only person who gets to experience the amazing you.

3. I still think I should get out of this.

Blind dates are nerve-racking. You have no idea what this person looks like. As you continue to get ready, your mind is racing with worst-case-scenario thoughts. What if the whole experience is uncomfortable? What if hes a jerk? What if he wants a kiss and youre not feeling it?

All these thoughts are likely to run through your head, and they are all valid. However, instead of thinking about worst-case-scenarios, think about how right the date could go. In fact, it could be the last first date you go on! Let that one sink in!

4. But Im awkward.


Blind dates have a reputation for being awkward, but this is actually a perk for any introvert. Since blind dates tend to be awkward, you can easily blame any perceived awkwardness as a result of the blind date situation.

Instead of only having in-depth conversations with the pizza delivery guy, grow your circle to include some random person a friend of a friend thinks would be perfect for you.

5. But I just really dont want to dress up.

This is probably the laziest excuse an introvert can come up with. Yes, no pants is always better than pants. However, we all have to get up every day and face the world in clothes.

So come on throw on your most comfortable jeans and oversized shirt and go on that blind date. In fact, consider a coffee date instead of a sit-down dinner. You can make the blind date experience less intimidating if you choose to do things that provide comfort for you.

In the end, youre just looking for the right person. Regardless of how introverted you may be, taking the first step toward finding your person requires you to push yourself out of your comfort zone and embark on a few blind dates.

Then, once you find that person, you can binge-watch Netflix with your dog and no pants on, just like youre doing right now, except youll have someone else to share the couch with.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/dating/thoughts-introvert-blind-date/1861529/

7 Ways To Navigate Love And Life In Your 20s When You’re Always Busy AF

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For many of us, navigating our 20sfeels like riding a fast, busy, and seriously emotional rollercoaster.

This is a time tofind ourselves, to establish our careers, and most of all, to adjust to this wholeadultingthing.

Some of us have dreaded student loan payments to make, or weekend jobs to work.

Then, we have to get to our yoga and kickboxing classes, fulfill family commitments, attend birthday parties, do some laundry, go food shopping, and honestly, the list just never ends.

You have to plan your life effectively, because before you know it, your life will be controlling .

Here are seven ways to navigate love and life in your 20s when youre the busiest chick around town.

1. Plan out an exercise routine that works for you.

We all know exercising is a major stress-reliever. And once youre done with your workout, you feel accomplished AF.

Pro tip: Its a easier to sign up for a couple of classes throughout the week to guarantee specific blocks of time dedicated solely to reaching your fitness goals.

2. Get in the habit of booking your next hair and nail appointments when youre at the salon.

This way, you wont forget. You also wont get to the point where youre itching to switch up your hair color, but cant seem to squeeze it into your hectic schedule.

3. Learn how to say no.

This is an important one. Youre not superwoman, and you cant please everyone all the time. Appreciate just how precious your time is, and be super selective with the invites you say yes to.

4. Combine plans.

Its so important to cherish your friendships in your 20s. The busier we get, the easier it is to let the gems in our lives slip away before making time forthem.

If you can squeeze in plans for a quick lunch, or happy hour drinks to catch up with your girlfriends, do it! It doesnt always have to be some elaborate, flashy night out.

Maybeyou have a fun work invitation, and youre able to bring along a plus one. Cease the opportunity to extend the invite to one of your besties.

5. Savor your weekends.

Dont feel guilty about completely relaxing and chilling out on the weekends.

Use this as your me time to recharge and catch up on things you want to do for yourself. Get rid of all of those FOMO feels, and just do you.

6. Love will happen when you least expect it, so embrace it with open arms.

And when it does come your way, you need to learn how to let things go, too.

Dont hold onto the guy whos stringing you along and clearly doesnt want to make a commitment to you. You deserve way better, and you quite literally dont have the time or patience for it.

7. Learn how to establish boundaries.

Whether certain friends are taking advantage of you, or other commitments are just too time-consuming, its vital to learn how to protect the time you need for yourself.

Once your routine is more manageable, youll finally start to feel like you can truly enjoy life. Let the positive vibes flow, and live your life to the fullest.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/life/how-to-navigate-love-life-in-20s-when-busy/1955560/

This Bride Took Bridal Photos With Her Bros Because She Didn’t Have Female Friends PHOTOS

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I know every time a new set of adorable, astounding and out-of-the-ordinary bridal photos come out, everyones all, This is the best bridal photo shoot of all time.

But when it comes to 24-year-old Rebecas bridal photos, I promise I mean it when I say, THIS IS THE BEST BRIDAL PHOTO SHOOT OF ALL TIME.

Rebeca, who studies computer engineering, wasresearching different ideas for what pictures to take during her bridal photo shoot when she felta little disappointed, according to Bored Panda.

I was looking into some making of pictures of brides with their gang of girls, all in robes, laughing, drinking champagne and all, and I got a bit sad because I wouldnt be able to do anything like that, Rebeca told Bored Panda.

You see, there are apparently only four women in Rebecas class (which is made of up 60 students).So clearly, there werent awhole lot of lady friends to choose from.

But luckily, thats where Rebecas guy friends stepped in.

These bros immediately stepped up to the plate to give their friend the bro-iest pictures ever to exist, for what I personally like to call The Bro-dal Photos.

OK, not gonna lie. These guys look like they know what theyre doing.

Nothing like a few bros doing a little ~relaxing~.

You guys, whats the hot gossip???


But if I were you, Rebeca, I maybe wouldnt let them anywhere near your face with makeup.

Mad props to these bros if they even have any clue whatmaterial that dress is made out of.

And also, mad props to Rebeca for putting up with their antics.

A bridal party who shaves together stays together.

This reminds me of that scene in where all of her mice friends help make her dress.

Screw the wedding, lets all just do shots.

Bros: You cant live with em, but you can put em in your bridal photos if you want to make things interesting.

Fortunately, Rebecas lack of ladies in the bridal shoot didnt get her down. In fact, she had more fun than ever. She tells Elite Daily,

I decided to do the photoshoot because I thought it was a great idea and I knew the guys would love it. The experience was just like we imagined, we knew we would have a lot of fun and indeed we had! We couldnt stop laughing, it was great!

If Im being 100 percent honest, Id probably ditch the traditional bridal party idea for my own wedding, if it meant these bros would come take bridal photos with me, too.

One things for sure: These guys put the party in bridal party.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/dating/bride-bros-bridal-photos/1955719/

The Whaboom Bachelorette Contestant Has Already Been On A Reality Dating Show

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With every season of and , fans are forced to analyze whether or not the contestants are there for the right reasons.

The right reasons, for those unfamiliar with the moral compass of the polygamy-style reality dating show, are quite simple: Are the contestants there to find love or are they there to find fame?

One of the best right-reasons indicators is the contestants job titles.

Struggling actor? Wrong reasons.

Aspiring Sugar Bear Hair Model? Wrong reasons.

Whaboom?Um, unclear.

Lucas, a 30-year-old contestant on Rachel Lindaysupcoming season of , lists his profession as Whaboom.

Chris Harrison, who has never been described as having a way with words, said this about Lucas occupation:

Its a noun, verb Its an adverb. Like, you can be Whaboom and you can Whaboom, and you can call somebody a Whaboom.

Cool, cool.

In an effort comparable to Sherlock Holmes solving his first great case, I did some digging and landed on Lucas Yanceys personal websiteandLinkedIn page.

Hes listed as a Real EstateInvestor and Actor/Director on LinkedIn no mention of Whaboom.

Along the top of his website, youll find tabs for Home, Reel, Videos, Gallery, and About all signs point to labeling Lucas as an aspiring famous person, not a comic book sound effect.

His About reads,

Lucas Yancey is originally from Woodside, California. He graduated from UC Berkeley and majored in Legal studies with a focus in Business. While attending Berkeley, he and his team won 4 Rugby National Championships. He started his own business, and committed much of his time to several on-campus organizations and philanthropies. As part of one of the organizations he spent many years mentoring inner city children, helping them grow and learn to achieve higher education and reach their goals. He continues in these endeavors to this day.

He currently works as an Actor/Writer/Producer in Los Angeles. He has appeared in many major television shows, commercials and movies. His company, YknotWorld Productions makes comedic films, short films, commercials and various other content. He enjoys doing stand-up comedy and improv shows at The Comedy Store and the Hollywood Improv.

He is fluent in Spanish and also works in Real Estate as a private investor and developer.He owns and manages many properties in Los Angeles as well as in the San Francisco Bay Area.

Life Motto:Consistency is what makes YOU!
Hash tags:#WhaaaBoooom #BurgertYme #LetTheBigDoggEat#WhosHungry #Gobbletyme

*cue sighs of Ohhhhh, OK, that makes sense from Bachelor Nation*

Lucas profile also features a series of videos hes created and starred in.

The stand-out video, after spending roughly a half hour digging through his 65 YouTube videos, is from ANOTHER dating reality show called Ex Isle that was uploaded 2016.

So, this is clearly not Lucas first time at the rodeo.

Additionally, another video posted by WE TVshows Lucas keeping the party going with Dublin girls.


So what Whaboom mean and what Lucas really do?

Based on my extensive research, it means he has a Nick Viall-level of reality TV show fame thirst but seemingly better enunciation skills and a real knack for poolside parties with Dublin girls.

His bio also mentions he majored in legal studies, so who knows? Maybe Rachel will see a law-abiding twinkle in his eyes and ignore his flagrant desire to be #famous.

I look forward to seeing your future Diff Eyewear Instagram ads, Lucas!

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/entertainment/bachelorette-whaboom-contestant/1955636/

There’s An Important Reason Your Guy Needs Enough Sleep, And It Has To Do With His Sperm

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OK, drop what youre doing, and text your boyfriend right now to ask him if he got enough sleep.

If he says he didnt, then you need to break the (potentially tragic, depending on how you look at it) news to him: His sperm are dying and theyre doing it quickly.

Why exactly is this tragic? WELP, if you want to have a family through natural means in the future, not having enough healthy sperm will make that a difficult.

In a recent study, published in, researchers from the Harbin Medical University in China found a pretty strong link between how much sleep men were getting and how healthy (and abundant) their sperm were.

For the experiment, researchers separated 981 male participants (all of whom had already developed healthy sleeping patterns) into three different groups: one group going to bed between 8 p.m. and 10 p.m., the other between 10 p.m. and midnight, and the third sometime after midnight.

The subjects in each group were then assigned to geteither less than six hours of sleep, between seven and eight hours, ornine or more hours.

After examining regular semen samples from the participants, researchers basically concluded that all of the all-nighters your guy friends pulled in college werent stellar for the survival rates and general presence of sperm.

Basically, the guys in the study whowent to bed after midnight and the guys who got less than six hours of sleep both saw significantly reduced sperm count, lower survival rates, AND decreasedsperm motility (how well sperm can move). Double whammy if youre on your 18th episode of at 2:43 a.m., and you need to wake up at 6, amiright?

Even in the seven-to-eight-hour group, researchers found diminished sperm health and motility in those who went to bed past midnight, meaning late bedtimes are literally a no-go if you want your spermies to be ~happy~, ~healthy~, and ~fast~.

BUT WAIT. Dont think you can just sleep for 15 hours the next day to make up for this and take back control of your sperm either. It turns out, those who got over nine hours of sleep saw a decrease in their overall sperm health.

Yeah, I KNOW. Life isnt fair. You cant win.

The researchers believe sleep matters so much for your sperm because they suspect that going to bed super late and not sleeping long enough can cause your body to release anti-sperm antibodies (ASA).

ASA are proteins released in the body that work to destroy healthy sperm by limiting sperm movement and preventing fertilization. And researchers found a much higher presence of ASA in those who didnt get enough sleep.

ASA can even continue to effect sperm that manage to survive, which could potentially result ina miscarriage, according to Medical Daily.

The general (and kind of unsurprising) takeaway here is that getting seven to eight hours of sleep each night is, like, pretty damn important for all areas of your life. But the less surprising bottom line is that your sperm health and the future family you may or may not wantdepends on it.

So tell your guy to stop researching the history of cheese at 3 a.m. and GO TO BED.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/dating/lack-of-sleep-affects-sperm-health/1955541/

One ‘Bachelorette’ Contestant’s Biggest Fear Is Dating A Trans Person, Apparently

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As Im sure most of youwith a pulse and/or a Facebook newsfeed have already heard, contestant bios were revealedthis past Wednesday.

In their bios, they get a chance to list their totally legit professions, like Whaboom and Tickle Monster (yes, someguys actually listed that as theiroccupation) and answer some more personal questions about themselves.

One contestant, a 30-year-old firefighter named Bryce, was asked what his biggest date fear is. His response was that the chick is actually a dude.

PerhapsBrycedid not intendtooffend an entire community of already marginalized individuals.

Butcareless statements like hisonly serve to further alienate the trans community. They continue toperpetuate our societys popular, yet wildly incorrect assumption that trans people are simply men disguised as women or vice versa, seeking only to deceive innocent dudes, like himself.

Insensitive comments like Bryces also dont help to quell the fear and aversion a surprising number of people still have toward the trans community.

In fact, according to recently released data fromYouGovUS, 21 percent of Americans still think identifying as transgender constituteshaving amental illness. Moreover, 39 percent of peoplethink being transgender is a choice.

When it comes to the realm of dating, the stats regarding trans individuals look even more daunting. People reported they wereless likely to date trans men (17 percent less likely) and trans women (16 percent less likely).

Whats worse? An alarming27 percent of us arent even willing to bewith transgender people.

While they may be totally unintentional, one-off comments like Bryces do nothing but continue the populations inability to accept trans individuals.

Not only canthose statements unintentionally further marginalize the members of the trans community, but they also sendtheincorrect signal to people whohostile to the trans community that doing so is OK.

People on Twitter havealready started reacting negatively to Brycescomment.

Bryces comment shouldserve as a reminder to all of us to be increasinglycareful about what we say and how we say it,especially when were in an influential position.

Read more: http://elitedaily.com/entertainment/bachelorette-contestant-transgender-fear/1955040/